Showing posts with label Chris Brauns. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Chris Brauns. Show all posts

Monday

In the good and the bad - we're bound together {book review}...

Bound Together
The principle of the rope is what underlies the good news of the gospel, namely, that if we are roped to Christ, we are so bound to him that nothing -- not even the rope that ties us to Adam -- can ever separate us from his love.
~ Chris Brauns Bound Together
When I began blogging years ago, I enthusiastically embraced the opportunities to read (free) books in exchange for an honest review, but after receiving and reading several non-fiction books for which writing a positive review would have been dishonest, I concluded that these opportunities were not for me.

I'm not a professional reviewer. If I was going to read and publicly review a book, I wanted it to be an opportunity to encourage, not embarrass, the author and to inspire others to read a book that would be worth their time, money and effort. So for the most part, I began choosing these opportunities with greater discretion by limiting them to those authors with which I was already familiar and would likely be able to recommend to my Pollywog Creek readers.

Such is the case with Chris Brauns' newest release, Bound Together - How We Are Tied To Others in Good and Bad Choices.  I began reading his blog and getting to know him and his lovely wife Jamie before his first book Unpacking Forgiveness: Biblical Answers for Complex Questions and Deep Wounds was published in 2008 - a book I still reflect on and share with others. I was delighted to find his same easy-to-read and engaging style and winsome approach to rich gospel-centered and thought-provoking content in Bound Together.

One of Chris' strengths is in storytelling, and that is how he begins chapter 1 - telling us a story from his childhood that most of us can relate to - a story of alcohol abuse that seems be a characteristic that's manifested in certain families. Chris continues to flesh out other examples in scripture and throughout history that illustrate what he calls "the principle of the rope" - "a picture of the invisible connections that exist between human beings" that bind us together for good and for bad.

Despite our claims to be independent of the actions of others, the truth is that from the very beginning of humanity (for example, The Flood), we have suffered from the consequences of the bad and evil decisions and actions of others. The proof can be seen clearly in the events of last week, which brings us to the stumbling block that all of us have encountered and Chris addresses: "how often innocent people, particularly young children, suffered because of the decisions made by someone else."

The first few chapters are not comfortable reading as Chris explains how we are tied to the bad in being "roped to Adam" as he unpacks the Original Sin, and that "the problem we face as Adam's descendants is not that we are sinners because we sin; rather, we sin because we are sinners." But before we become discouraged, Chris points to our hope and devotes a chapter to "The Rope That is Stronger."  
When confronted with the reality of evil, the death of innocent children and suffering that we cannot explain or even comprehend, the most important thing we can do in response is fly as quickly as possible to the good news of our union with Christ.
~ Chris Brauns, Bound Together
The remaining chapters are devoted to the practical application of "The Principle of the Rope" for joy, in our marriage, for hurting families, for those facing death, and in our country and culture - with an emphasis on biblical community. 

I give Bound Together 5 stars. Like Unpacking Forgiveness, I'll refer to it often and highly recommend it to others.

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I was provided with a complementary copy of Bound Together by Zondervan and Cross Focused Reviews in exchange for my honest review. The painted bunting - at least for now - lives on Pollywog Creek.

In truth we are guilty...





Then they said to one another, “In truth we are guilty concerning our brother, in that we saw the distress of his soul, when he begged us and we did not listen. That is why this distress has come upon us.” ~ Genesis 42:21
I'd long ago released the bitterness I embraced in a season of betrayals and hurts our family experienced years ago. I'd tell you, with all sincerity, that I'd forgiven those involved and moved on - that I had put those hurts far from my thoughts, and rarely, if ever, considered them - and it would all be true. What I failed to see was my own guilt - harboring bitterness for even a moment, keeping those that hurt us at arm's length, and letting far too many years pass without pursuing reconciliation in the relationships that had been damaged.





It's not as though I went out of my way to avoid these relationships. Most of them were with people whose paths I almost never crossed. We weren't friends in the sense that we talked on the phone or met for coffee. We weren't on each other's Christmas card lists. I distanced myself in other ways - slowly pulling away from involvement in activities that might bring us together. We were the victims, after all. The apology ball was in their court, or so I thought.




On a recent Sunday drive to church, I stopped writing for a moment to listen to the articulate, soft-spoken voice on the radio. The nationally broadcast program was momentarily discussing a topic of personal interest. When the announcer identified the person whose voice had caught my attention as one of those people I'd allowed time and distance to separate me from, I immediately thought, I need to mend that fence.

I had read Chris Brauns' Unpacking Forgiveness: Biblical Answers for Complex Questions and Deep Wounds almost two years ago and had worked through it chapter by chapter with our small group. I knew that reconciliation was the final step in achieving biblical forgiveness, but I obviously failed to connect the dots and remember the estranged relationships that resulted from that hurtful season years ago.


Blest be the tie that binds...

It's no excuse, but I'll be the first to admit it - I don't have the fastest learning curve, and I dare not trust my memory. By the time we turned off the highway and into the church parking lot, I'd already put "mending fences" out of my thoughts. 


I'd be tempted to despair of these weaknesses of mine, if I didn't believe that God fashioned me the way I am. He knows that I am but dust and understands all my infirmities and inadequacies. More importantly, it's God's desire to use my weaknesses to display His strength and magnify His grace, and that was what He was about to do. 


In church that morning, a visiting pastor spoke on reconciliation. With Genesis 42 as his text, he made several excellent points in his message, but the one that stuck to me was this...
God had jogged their memory: "Surely we are guilty," the brothers confessed
I didn't need to be guilty of the sins of Joseph's brothers to understand that God knew all along what I would hear on the radio and in church that morning, and He had jogged my memory, just as He had done Joseph's brothers. What I heard the pastor say was, Surely, you are guilty, too, Patricia - go and mend that fence.    

On the drive home from church, I looked over the message notes I'd taken that morning. We are nothing without God, but for grace. Put pride aside and be an expression of that grace. 


In Unpacking Forgiveness, Brauns explained the mistake I made initially in the way I had responded to those hurts... 
If forgiveness were something that happened only within a person, then Matthew 18:15-20 would not be necessary. Believers could work through forgiveness privately. But Jesus taught that forgiveness is something that happens between two parties. Forgiveness is a figurative handshake. You cannot shake hands alone. For forgiveness to happen, you need to seek out the offending party (or the offended party if you are the offender), extend your hand, and pray that the other party will offer his or hers to you.
Brauns continued to say that many of us will respond to hurts and conflicts in one of two dysfunctional ways:  blow up completely and have a shouting match with the offender or avoid it entirely. I'd obviously chosen the latter. In explaining the consequences of that choice, Brauns wrote...
Once the lines have been drawn, the two parties simply keep their distance.  At the same time they’re avoiding one another, they may be talking and involving all kinds of other people unnecessarily....In most cases, the initial conflict blew over and is forgotten, but it was never dealt with biblically or satisfactorily. There was no ownership of nor true repentance for mistakes made. There was no true forgiveness.
Wish I had been paying closer attention to Brauns the first time, I would have been years closer to reconciliation. I did "go and mend that fence", and God blessed that response in unexpected ways, but I can't forget that there are other relationships that need tending from that hurtful season of years ago.

What about you? Is God, even now, jogging your memory, too? Is there possibly an offense you long ago buried that needs a biblical response toward reconciliation? 

Photos: morning light on Pollywog Creek (I never tire of those pond reflections), the beautyberry berries in all their fall glory (you'll see them often on Pollywog Creek), and a clinging vine on a mended fence. 

Saturday

In just two hours a week....

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I can...
...be her friend
...take her dog for a walk
...help her shower
...wash her back and feet
...warm a towel in the dryer
...rub her back with lotion
...change the sheets on her bed
...share life
...pray
For just a little bit longer I can...
...take her to the beauty parlor
...mail her packages
...decorate her Christmas tree
...help her with her medications
...shop
Are the needs of the elderly, disabled or sick in your church, your neighborhood or your community being met? Do you know?
Do you have time? Do you care?
“When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, then he will sit on his glorious throne. Before him will be gathered all the nations, and he will separate people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. And he will place the sheep on his right, but the goats on the left. Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’
“Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me no food, I was thirsty and you gave me no drink, I was a stranger and you did not welcome me, naked and you did not clothe me, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.’ Then they also will answer, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not minister to you?’ Then he will answer them, saying, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me.’ And these will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.”
~ Matthew 25:31-46 (ESV)
Pastor Chris Brauns looks at Matthew 25 and Haiti. It's a MUST read for all of us.

Friday

Don't forget...

...the fantastic book giveaway I mentioned here. Chris Brauns - author of Unpacking Forgiveness - is hosting a fantastic Summer Book Blast, with an opportunity to win one of 10 books including a calf-skin ESV Study Bible that retails for $239.99, or 1 of the following:
2 signed copies of Unpacking Forgiveness 2 copies of, What He Must Be if He Wants to Marry My Daughter, by Voddie Baucham, 2 copies of Don’t Waste You Life, by John Piper, 2 copies of What is a Healthy Church?, by Mark Dever, 2 copies of Worldliness, by C.J. Mahaney.

Monday

Books::free books and a critique...

Open seedpod
Our lifegroup finished reading and discussing Unpacking Forgiveness last week, and what an excellent study it was. Most of us came to realize that even as mature Christians we have held onto beliefs about forgiveness that are not Biblical, and that realization challenged and motivated us to dig deeper into the Scriptures for the proper understanding. Unpacking Forgiveness is a book for everyone, especially those of us who don't think we need it.
Loggerhead Shrike and Fledglings
The author of Unpacking Forgiveness, Chris Brauns, is hosting a fantastic Summer Book Blast, with an opportunity to win one of 10 books including a calf-skin ESV Study Bible that retails for $239.99, or 1 of the following:
2 signed copies of Unpacking Forgiveness 2 copies of, What He Must Be if He Wants to Marry My Daughter, by Voddie Baucham, 2 copies of Don’t Waste You Life, by John Piper, 2 copies of What is a Healthy Church?, by Mark Dever, and 2 copies of Worldliness, by C.J. Mahaney.
Male (top) and Female (bottom) Red-bellied Woodpeckers
Don't tell Louis because he just bought one for me at Christmas, but World Magazine is offering a free hardcover ESV Study Bible to new subscribers. (HT - Justin Taylor at Between Two Worlds)
While I am on the subject of books, Mary DeMuth critiqued a pitch to my work in progress last week. If you are a writer "wannabe", I hope you subscribe to Mary's blogs. Not only is she an excellent writer of fiction and non-fiction, her encouragement and inspiration for other writers is the best.

By the way, did I mention that God willing I am going to Texas in less than two weeks, and that Emily is going to Rwanda this summer and maybe DC in the fall?

Photos - Pollywog Creek the last weekend in April. The second photo is a collage of Loggerhead Shrike (or Butcher Birds). They have a nest with what I think are 4 fledglings atop one of the very tall long-leaf pine trees in the pasture and without a good zoom on my camera, those were the best photos of the babies that I could get. Whenever I ventured close to the tree, one of the adult loggerhead shrikes would swoop down and try to avert my attention from the babies.

Wednesday

Wacky Wednesday...

There is a pizza place in our community that offers special "Wacky Wednesday" deals that are Hunter family favorites. Don't get your hopes up - I'm not offering any pizza deals this morning - but I do have a few links and quotes to pass your way that I think are special deals none the less. Sandy, thank you for this link. Beautiful song - a wonderful way for me to begin my morning in worship to my Father. I'll be singing that song all day. Chris Brauns is giving away 2 books and 2 daughters. That's right. If you don't believe me, go look. By the way, our small group is using his "Unpacking Forgiveness" for our weekly discussions. Talk about stimulating conversations! Good, good teachings that I wish I had received years ago. One night when Emily was about 4 or 5 years old I heard her sobbing in her bedroom after she had gone to bed. When I went in her room to comfort her she told me through tears that she didn't want to grow up and get married because it meant she would have to leave home. I thought about Emily's worries about getting married when I read Shannon Popkin's Cade's Wedding Plans this morning. Shannon is a gifted writer and speaker and I just know that you will want to add her new blog (tiny paragraphs) to your subscriptions. I must leave shortly for an appointment and there's not enough time for me to elaborate at the moment, but finding this from Dr. Mohler in my reader this morning made my heart race. It is my passion and my burden. It is the one place I know God has called me to use what ever gifts He has chosen to grant me, and I could use prayers that I will remain focused to the task. ("Do Not Cast Me Off in the Time of Old Age," Part One.) Lastly, two quotes that spoke to me this morning with links to the articles surrounding them:
"If people who don't personally know Christ, who have never been transformed by God's grace, have learned this much about giving, shouldn't we who are Christ's followers have learned a great deal more?" Randy Alcorn at Eternal Perspectives
"Only a Christian has a right to hope, for only he has the power of God to give substance to his hope." ~ A. W. Tozer (False Hope and Certain Hope)
Later...

Friday

Project: Coffee::Good Morning

Good Morning Hazelnut cream beans and Sweetwater Organic Good Morning Blend

My favorite afternoon coffee pleasure comes from fresh ground hazelnut cream flavored beans, but for breakfast this morning I ground Sweetwater Organic Good Morning Blend. The Sweetwater website description states: "Good Morning (Medium Roast) Harmonious Breakfast blend of new crop Central and South American shade grown beans in a Full City Roast. Sweet, milk chocolaty and bright, with a smooth, nutty finish. 100% USDA Certified Organic, 60%+ Rainforest Alliance Certified™, 50%+ Smithsonian Bird Friendly, Shade Grown."

The Sweetwater blend is new to me - a wonderful gift from my brother in law who lives in Gainesville (the home of Sweetwater) and knows of my affection for coffee. Thank you, John.

It was chilly and rainy on Pollywog Creek today. Tomorrow promises to be even colder, but dry and sunny - a perfect day for coffee and books and a quilt and a nap on the backyard swing. It was two weeks ago, that I last mentioned coffee and books in the same sentence. Our lifegroup was just beginning to read Unpacking Forgiveness by Chris Brauns. We have now read through chapter 3, and I must say the discussions have been lively and good.

Emily and I are reading Crazy Love by Francis Chan. Life-changing. Emily introduced me to the teachings of Francis Chan a little more than a year ago, and now that I have an iPod, I subscribe to his podcasts(go to media and then "get a sermon") and listen on my walks around Pollywog Creek. His recent series entitled "Living a Life that Matters" is outstanding. Both Crazy Love and Unpacking Forgiveness were reviewed by Tim Challies and are on his list of "Top 8 Books of 2008".

Emily just finished When Character Was King: A Story of Ronald Reagan by Peggy Noonan. I read this Reagan biography years ago and loved it. So did Emily. Emily has decided that she wants to read a book by or about all 44 United States Presidents. Do y'all have any suggestions?